I don’t cut my hair. I don’t wear makeup. I only wear skirts. And I don’t disrespect my husband. (Bonus: He doesn’t even beat me! I do this willingly!) Why am I like this? Let’s have a look into my heart.
Before we delve in, I want to give you the same advice that we give our children. We teach our children that when they grow up and begin to have questions about things we have taught them, then it is their responsibility to study the Bible and to pray for God’s direction. Every man must work out his own salvation with fear and trembling. This also applies to my children.
“Because I said so” ain’t gonna get them to heaven.
If you have any questions about what you read here today, then it needs to be an issue that is between you and God. In the end, it is you and you alone that will stand before Him. He is a loving God, and He will guide You if You let Him. Whether You have a question about your appearance, your marriage, or your salvation, allow God to give you the answer, not some fallen man or article you read on the internet, including mine.
Why I Don’t Cut My Hair
But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her; for her hair is given her for a covering. 1 Corinthians 11:15
- First and foremost, I do not believe that you are going to hell if you cut your hair.
- Secondly, I cut my hair up until I was 25.
- Thirdly, no one told me I needed to stop cutting my hair.
I prayed over the issue and God gave me confirmation that it is a covering, a protection over my family. I do not believe that it is necessary for salvation. Sometimes God has us do things that might seem silly just to see if we will obey Him. It is a sacrifice for my family—one that I gladly make.
Why I Don’t Wear Makeup
In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with braided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works. – 1 Timothy 2:9 – 10
- First and foremost, I do not believe that you are going to hell if wear makeup.
- Secondly, I wore makeup from the time I was 14 up until I was 25.
- Thirdly, no one told me I needed to stop wearing makeup.
It’s not about me. It’s not about how pretty I am or how pretty I could be if I spent money on makeup. I am beautiful the way I am. Even if I was ugly by your standard, I would still be ugly with makeup—just not as ugly. The Holy Ghost gives me a shine that L’oreal never did.
When I was not serving God, I did not wear makeup much. The only time I wore makeup was when I was going out. I had an agenda—to look good, to draw attention to myself. For me, this is what makeup represents, because I know what was in my heart. It is no longer my desire to draw attention to myself. I don’t need to be beautiful according to the world’s standards. My husband and my Jesus think I’m beautiful just the way I am and that’s more than enough for me.
Why I Only Wear Skirts
Notice there is no scripture reference here, because it does not say in the Bible that women have to wear skirts. According to my research, in bible times, everyone wore robe-like garments. There are, however, scriptures dealing with modesty and the heart.
- First and foremost, I do not believe that you are going to hell if you wear pants.
- Secondly, I wore pants all of my life up until I came to Christ.
- Thirdly, no one told me I needed to stop wearing pants.
For me, it’s hard to be modest when a man can make out the crack in my supposed-to-be private areas.
Private means “You’re not supposed to see this.”
I think the main thing here is to state that I am not looking for a justification to wear pants. So many women outside of my belief try to give me justifications on why I can wear pants. Unlike makeup, I did wear pants 99% of the time before coming to Christ. And do you know why I wore those pants? Because I looked good in them! I knew I could turn heads when I walked into a room. I was young, I worked out 6 days a week (at one point, lol), and I made it a point to look good when I put on a pair of pants. My goal was attention, and I was not disappointed.
I wear long, flowing skirts and non-revealing tops to prevent advertising my goodies. I don’t want anyone seeing my goodies. I don’t need that affirmation anymore. It is my job as a Christian woman, regardless of marital state, to help protect men from the sin of lust. I understand that they are responsible for controlling their lust but it is my responsibility to not provoke them. If I can’t respect myself, then I at least need to respect the men around me (and their wives), and cover up.
We all know that a woman can be just as much of an attention-hound wearing a skirt. You’ve got long, tight skirts, short skirts, flashy skirts, knee length skirts with a 12″ slit up the back, and on and on and on. It all comes around to what your attitude is, where your heart is. Which brings me to my next point:
Why I Don’t Disrespect My Husband
Ahhh, surely the one you’ve been holding your breath about. I am going to put this in a separate post, because I realize that there are those who don’t agree with my first three points. But, hopefully, as Christian women, what I have to say about disrespecting our husbands will resonate within all of us.