ost goldfish will die or have stunted growth if they do not have enough space in which to grow to their maximum size. And so will you. And so will your child.
Trust me. I know the fear that grips your heart when you think of sending your child out into the “unsafety” zone. No one likes to think of their child as being the victim. Or as being the intruder. No one likes to think of their child as the strung out crack whore or the missionary far from home. But I don’t like to think of my child as a permanent basement dweller either. While I crave to protect my child, I also crave to see my child grow. This river of life is scary. It is unknown. There are cold places that run in the deep waters of this spiritual fighting ground. Terrible places. Dark places. How heart broken and shattered I would be to find my own child there one day! After all, someone’s child is there. All adults were children at one point. Loved or hated, held or discarded–we were all in a warm, if not welcoming, womb at the beginning of our life.
I don’t want my fear to take the place of the greatness that my child could achieve. Even if it’s just personal greatness and not necessarily greatness for the Lord. I want my child to struggle, for it is only out of struggle that growth can ever be achieved. It was that one determined sperm that bonded with the egg to give us our life. Don’t squander that determination to live–in you or in your child.
Some goldfish are happy in their bowl, but then there are the ones that jump out. Do they not know that there is only a kitchen floor that awaits them? Or do they not care? Are they willing to jump out, regardless of the cost, so as to not have to live within the confines of his bowl any longer? So as not to live a stunted life?
Is your child making plans to jump? Provide your child with some water. Yes, it may be unknown water, but it is better than known death. Equip your child with knowledge. Equip your child with self-teaching skills. Equip your child on how to push past the struggle. Teach them how to make wise decisions.
How do you do this? You do this by living it out before them. Every great teacher will first show their student the goal. “Watch me, Johnny! See how I lift balance with this arm and thrust with this leg? See how I keep my focus? See how I fly! Now, you try!. You can do it! Oh, that’s okay, get up. You got to keep trying. You’ll get it. It’s okay to be afraid, but it’s not okay to let that fear control you.”
Teach your child. Love your child. Educate your child. Equip your child. Support your child. Believe in your child. Allow your child to grow. Help him to grow.