So I turned down the wrong road when I left Girl Scouts tonight and went into a residential area. There was a 15 yr old (or so) boy and his 11ish yr old sister outside playing basketball. The goal was up next to the street. As I’m approaching, he hits her with the basketball and pushes her down and takes a very menacing stance over her. He’s a good bit bigger than her. She gets up and is cowering, afraid of him. I pull up next to him and let him have “what for”. At first, he was defiant. He said, “She was actin’ out.” I said, “So what! That is no reason to abuse her.” Then he said, “She tripped.” I said, “Don’t lie to me.” And a few other things. I was hot! I told him that he is supposed to love and care for his sister, to protect her and to respect her. I asked him if being abusive is what is taught in his home. He said, “No, ma’am.” I’m sure the young man didn’t quite know what to think of this old wet hen. I explained to him that how he treats her is how he will treat his wife and his daughter and also how he treats her is how she will let other men treat her. His eyes softened. I could see that he had come around. I apologized for being so gruff with him, but that it was just because I cared and it sparks something in me when I see people mistreated, especially by those they are supposed to be able to trust.
My kids sat silently in the back seat, no doubt with their mouth gaped open and no telling what kind of crazy look was on their face as they stared at the young man.
It’s a good thing I wasn’t in some inner city somewhere because I probably would have got beat down. But the point is this: you don’t have to be a superhero to stand up for injustice. I will never get bit by some suped-up spider. My costume is simply a long skirt and a bun.
Children need guidance. They need someone to tell them, “Hey, that is wrong. Love your family. Protect your family.” You can bet the world ain’t telling them that. But I can’t be everything to every child. Sometimes I can barely be what my own kids need me to be.
Just make a difference when you are given the opportunity. You don’t have to go looking for them. Impact somebody today. Love somebody today.
Are you interested in more stories about sibling relationships? I have 7 siblings, so I am always interested in studying this aspect of life.