I never do book reviews or really any reviews at all. Very few of them are found among my pages here. But I know that most of you will take an interest in “Messy Beautiful Love”. The author is Darlene Schacht of TimeWarpWife.com. As you can see from TimeWarpWife’s FB page, she is a pretty well known blogger. But the main reason that I want to help support and promote her is because, even with the bit of internet fame that she has experienced, she has always always made time for the people who helped her get there. She is someone that I have contact with. She still takes time to interact with me. And that is a key component when you are in the ministry. It’s all about having a relationship.
And that is how we end up at “Messy Beautiful Love”. It’s a book that is all about relationships. If you’ve ever experienced real love, then you know just what I mean. Love doesn’t quit. Love doesn’t leave. But how can you be the one who doesn’t quit and the one who doesn’t leave when those seem to be your only choice for happiness?
Here is some Q&A with Darlene:
Who do you think will benefit most from Messy Beautiful Love, and why?
Women who are seeking more for their marriage will benefit most from my book. More than a story or simply feel-good information, Messy Beautiful Love challenges women to grow in love by putting Christ at the center of marriage.
I’m a cracked vessel held together by grace, whose deepest desire is to encourage you in your marriage. I don’t have it all figured out, and I doubt that I ever will, but I’m learning to lean on the One who does. I’m learning that when I follow His wisdom in lieu of my own, I’m walking in peace, and that peace floods into my marriage.
What is the main piece of advice you would give women in today’s world, who want to approach their marriage differently?
Women in today’s world are exposed to temptation on a constant basis. The Internet is a way of life for most people.
Our ancestors never experienced anything remotely close to what we are living with today. The outside world—along with its opinions, temptations, and distractions—has made its way into our homes.
I can’t tell you the number of times that women have confided in me about the struggles they’re facing online. It can mess with your mind when a seemingly perfect man (and I do mean seemingly) is paying attention to you, or waiting to chat.
We need to be on guard more than ever before, protecting our thoughts, our children, our faith, and our marriages.
You say, “Loving our husbands through the hard times, through the valleys, and when they are most unlovable, reveals the gospel in our lives.’ Can you expand on that for us?
The Bible tells us, “Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives.” – 1 Peter 3:1, NIV
We’ve read the scriptures that tell us to submit to our husbands, but here Peter is instructing women to be submissive to unbelieving husbands in particular. It’s important to note this because being submissive to someone who is gentle and kind is easy, but being submissive to someone who frustrates you requires patience and sacrifice on your part.
Let me interject here before I expand on this: I’m not talking about abuse. In some situations it’s vital that we get help before we get hurt. If someone is in an abusive situation, they should speak to a wise counselor who can offer them sound biblical advice, and guide them safely.
What we are talking about here are difficult, unloving, people. Whether it’s in our home or our workplace, Peter addresses this very issue saying that it is commendable when we bear suffering for the sake of our faith. Why? Because true love is not only patient and kind, it doesn’t get angry when others do it wrong. It bears all things, always hopes and always perseveres (paraphrased from 1 Corinthians 13).
When we love, the way God loves, we walk by the Spirit in obedience to our faith. That obedience is a gift that we offer our Lord.
For it is commendable if someone bears up under the pain of unjust suffering because they are conscious of God. ~ 1 Peter 2:19, NIV