In our home, we talk about the hard things. We talk about life. And death. We talk about abortion, forgiveness, and good decisions. But these talks are seldom planned. We use the moments that life unexpectedly provides us and make them into teachable moments.
I was up late tonight cleaning and had on a show called “Land Girls”. It’s set in the WWII era and is on Netflix. So anyway, Gigi (8) walked in (she was supposed to be in bed). Right when she walked in, this woman collapsed from having a botched abortion. There was blood on her underside, and Gigi wanted to know what happened. We are very open in our home and my husband and I prioritize being available for ANY discussion with our children. I’ve told her about abortion before but I asked her, “Do you know what abortion is?” because it had been a while since we had discussed it.
She said she knew the word but couldn’t remember exactly what it was. I said it’s when a pregnant woman decides she doesn’t want to have a child and so she pays a doctor to kill the baby while it’s still in her tummy. She looked so perplexed and thoughtful. She said, “That’s like murder.” I said, “It IS murder.” We talked a bit more and I told her that most women that have an abortion are ones who did not wait to have sex inside a marriage covenant. And she said “It’s important that I know this because I’m a girl.” Then she said, “But boys need to know it, too. But at the right age. Not too early. But not too late. Especially not too late.”
The child is 8 and has more wisdom than most 38 year olds.
So I tucked her in and we talked more, about how important it is to make good decisions and how some of those women thought they were doing the right thing. Most of the young adults today aren’t raised in a Christian home or aren’t raised in a home where mistakes are easily accepted. Some women think they are doing the best thing because they don’t think their baby will have a good life. We talked about God’s grace and forgiveness, but that it’s important to always try your best to make the right decision every time.
And then she said, “If you don’t want a baby, don’t have sex.” By George, I think she’s got it!
We started from a very early age talking to our kids about “life”: periods, sex, love, death, homosexuality, mood swings, lust, desire, drugs, etc. My parents weren’t like that, and I am determined to do it differently in my home. The world is saturated with these things, and I want to be the one to teach my children.
I have a great friend who is also a blogger, and she has a study for breaking into “the sex talk” with your children. The book is so popular on Amazon, that Amazon contacted them directly and wanted to cover some publisher related expenses. How amazing is that!
The Talk: 7 Lessons to Introduce Your Child to Biblical Sexuality by Luke Gilkerson will make a great addition to any home or church library. You can check out other people’s reviews and order the physical print book at Amazon OR if you want to read more about the book, see pictures of the inside, or buy the digital copy, they have a page on their website (IntoxicatedOnLife.com) dedicated to “The Talk” here.