All of my childhood, I was told “drugs are bad”. But then when I did drugs, I was like, “hm, drugs are good!”. So we teach our children a little bit differently. We say, “Drugs are good. For a little bit. And then they will ruin your life.” We show them the photo timelines of drug users and how the drug usage slowly ruined their lives. But it’s not really the drug usage–it’s the lack of self-discipline. It’s the lack of self-respect. One of our main focuses in our house is raising a person who knows their own limits and can set their own boundaries. I will start off saying, “Yes, you can such-and-such, but you need to self-monitor your time.” And if I see that they have allowed themselves to become too absorbed and are allowing themselves too much of such-and-such, then I will govern. One day, these children will leave our home and will have no one to answer to but themselves and God. I want to make sure that they know how to say no to themselves.
I always said that I would never drink. And then I drank. I always said that I would never smoke dope. And then I smoke dope. I always said that I would never do cocaine. And then I did cocaine. I always said that I would never do meth. And then I did meth. Thankfully, God reached down and said, “This is not the life I have for you.” I was never strung out, but I easily could have been.
I am not a stupid person. I am very intelligent and creative and full of life. Smart people do drugs, too. Doing drugs has nothing to do with your level of intelligence. I shudder when I think I put that yuck into my body. I was just looking for the next good time. I am so thankful for God’s protection.
So it’s not “Just say no to drugs.” It’s “Know when to say no to your desires.” Say no to finding the next good time. Say no to fitting in with the crowd.
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